Wife causes family drama because she wants stepdad to walk her down the aisle
A 27-year-old woman is going through a family dispute ahead of her upcoming wedding and wants the internet’s advice on what to do.
A split between her and her siblings and their birth father has extended family members getting involved and calling the bride a “hole,” but is she really one?
The bride-to-be wants her stepfather to walk her down the aisle instead of her biological father.
To avoid unnecessary drama, her stepfather and mother told her she could ask her birth father to walk her down the aisle, but she and her fiancé agree that “we’d rather if I walked down the aisle. alone rather than letting him do this.”
Following all the bickering, the 27-year-old bride-to-be took to the “r/AmItheA–hole” (AITA) subreddit to find out whether or not she really was the “a–hole” her family said that she was with the help of strangers on the internet.
Basically, you post your story on the subreddit and allow random people on the internet to read it and pass on their rating which boils down to “You’re the A–hole” (YTA), or “Not the A–hole (NTA).
Luckily for this woman, Reddit philosophers were on her side as there’s a lot of context to figure out why she’s NTA.
A brief summary of the story tells us that his biological father cheated on his mother while she was pregnant with their second child, which led to more problems.
Her mother later cheated on her emotionally while she was pregnant with the third and last child (the author of the message), which led to a divorce when she was born.
With her parents separated, her stepfather became the primary father figure in the children’s lives.
“I have a great relationship with my stepdad. He’s been more of a dad to me than my bio dad all my life,” she wrote in her post. my stepfather because they see him as the person who separated my parents.”
The problem only arises when she talks about the wedding plans to her sister, who is her bridesmaid and is much closer to their biological father than their stepfather.
“I was talking about plans with my sister and mentioned my stepdad would walk me down the aisle. She was pissed,” she wrote.
“[She] started ranting about being ungrateful and a bad girl to my bio dad.
This led to a call from the birth father saying he wouldn’t go if he didn’t walk her home, adding “how walking my stepdad down the aisle would humiliate him, and how if I care about him , I’ll let him walk down the aisle.
But the truth is, it’s her wedding and no one else’s. Not her biological father’s, not her stepfather’s, not her sisters’, not anyone but her own and her fiancé’s.
“Your marriage should be a joyful affair and it sucks that your family is falling apart rather than supporting you,” the lead commentary wrote.
Other people also noted how the biological father treated her before – about how he didn’t believe she was his and wasn’t even a father to her until recently. .
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“Any man who chooses not to attend his daughter’s wedding because he is not the one walking her down the aisle has proven himself unworthy to walk her down the aisle,” wrote one. another of the best comments.
If a wedding is supposed to be one of the best days of your life, don’t ruin it by inviting people who will care or hate the choices you want to make that day.
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